hit/hurt, push, pull or verbally abuse you back (usually harder)
shut down on you (and possibly bad mouth you to others) at least until they get an apology or..
remove themselves from your presence (possibly permanently) until they can handle responding, hopefully with love, compassion and the upmost care
- Using humour to disarm a situation, perhaps even slight self depreciating humour like...yep, I am ridiculously tall but that means I can beat you in a game of basketball by slam dunking right over you, are you up for a game sometime! Hehe ; }. In your head perhaps turn your perceived flaws into assets so you can do this and by doing so, not let people's harsh or depreciating comments get to you (if they point out your limitations or shortcomings or physical attributes in a negative way, as they see them).
- Stay well and healthy on every level, in particular physically, socially etc.
- If it is safe to do so, communicate your needs and feelings in the moment that the conflict happens, in a calm, sensible manner and do your best to keep your emotions at bay (we discuss this in our blog videos), and communicate quickly and succinctly where possible, and stick to the facts, do not hurl personal insults.
Remove yourself as fast as you can from any violent conflict situation, and wait until the other party calms down to discuss anything & perhaps alert the relevant authorities; and then explain very honestly how it is affecting you and ask them not to indulge in that behaviour again.
Another way to break a pattern of behaviour or an awkward, uncomfortable or mild conflict situation is to distract the other person completely (to shift their focus and give them a chance to calm down - this is the best one to use for young kids).
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