As a parent, I am only interested in learning and sharing what works......so when I read this during some psychology study, I thought, I need to share this with all the parents who read my posts.
Actually, this applies to everyone...I will show you why.
What conditions foster the development of high self-esteem?
Young people develop higher self-esteem when their parents communicate unconditional acceptance and love, establish clear guidelines for behaviour and reinforce compliance while giving the child freedom to make decisions and express opinions within those guidelines (Brown, 1998; Coopersmith, 1967).
You have to have love AND be firm for young people to have real self-worth.
Beginning in early childhood, success in achieving positive outcomes builds a sense that one is an effective person (Hawley & Little, 2002).
Feedback received from other people also has an impact on the child’s sense of self.
One study showed that when low-self-esteem young people were exposed to highly supportive youth sport coaches who gave them large amounts of positive reinforcement and encouragement, their self-esteem increased significantly over the course of the sports season (Smoll et al., 1993).
Apparently, the positive feedback caused them to revise their self-concepts in a positive direction.
Makes sense, right? So....what you say to your kids MATTERS.
Heck, take that one step further and you realise....what you say to yourself MATTERS.
So be kind to yourself and your kids.
Words of encouragement go a long way.
Your diet is not only what you eat, it is what you listen to, what you read and the people you hang around.
Be mindful of what you are putting into your body, emotionally, physically & spiritually.
Ref: Burton 4th Ed
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