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There are things in life that happen that can absolutely floor us.
There are things that we may witness or experience that can hurt, a lot.
There are people that are close to you that may seem to care more about how others perceive them, than about how they should perhaps be treating you, perhaps even a husband or wife.
If you have been hurt by someone you care about, then you understand the confusion and pain that can come of being treated this way.
How then, do we react?
If however, you can find one person that cannot help but be real, and who doesn’t falter in who they are, and who is honest and open to your ideas and opinions and who treats you with the highest level of respect, even in tough situations, or at least they try and do everything they can to help you and others.....
....then it is much easier to keep the faith in not only them and life, but the future of the human race.
People can become incredible because they know deep down who they are and hold fast to their values no matter what life brings to their door.
We can choose to ignore issues or we can be honest with ourselves, take note, analyse, decide and then act and perhaps even make a difference.
I think this is where honesty cannot help but come in.
Deep down we know who we are and how we wish to be treated.
Deep down, we know who other people really are.
Deep down we can all see what is really going on in situations if we send time trying to.
Some people are so real that everything that is done to them, just makes them more honest, real, and perhaps even makes them knuckle down and want to help and they speak their truth in a way that is unmistakable.
The more emotion that comes through, can be exhausting, but at least it cannot be misinterpreted.
If people feel the truth coming at them, it can be hard to hear and act on, but we must listen to our gut.
Those that feel deep hurt, can others emotionally, can hurt others accidentally.
I am not saying that we shouldn’t be feeling hurt, pain, disappointment, frustration or hurt from their perceived mistreatment of you or perhaps the way they handle situations upsets you.
Times are challenging for many people right now. I would never do you the disservice of minimalizing the struggle you are going through. Merely saying some platitude, or try to sugar coat a difficult situation would be unhelpful – and is the opposite of leadership. – Cathy Burtke
Having said all of the above, it is so important that we keep believing in ourselves, in others and in life.
If we can believe in ourselves and believe that we deserve to enjoy life a little, and can allow ourselves to relax in the face of it all and trust in live and what it is showing you, then act to help make sure it doesn’t happen again by learning from it.
When I was going through a rough time, in a relationship, all I wanted to do was be with and love the fun and innocence that my children bring to the table.
Even they don’t always do everything correctly….Or perhaps as I would like them to!
Obviously, and I want to be clear here, hugging, kissing and loving our kids is fine, even lying beside them on occasion, like in a camping situation, is completely fine however, touching them inappropriately is not even close to being alright. To do so could be considered abuse.
Good communication and being up front about what is appropriate and what is not, before it happens is a very good idea.
As a Mum, I just cannot ever give up on them, or on educating them about what is healthy behaviour and what is not.
Also, what is their and everyone else’s highest and best interests which is ridiculously important and cannot be underestimated, no matter how hard it is to enforce and insist upon, even if they don;t like it.
A message that sticks is one repeated over and over again by a parent or person of influence or perhaps of authority.
Having the support of a partner, who also disciplines his children to standards that you both agree upon in a relationship, makes it so much easier for the Mother or head female of the household, to uphold such standards.
Kids and young people can act up and test boundaries and make it so hard to continue to insist and teach why the behaviour you are requesting is so important.
Let’s hope all women and men have this kind of emotional and psychological support from their partners.
Realising we may be making assumptions and may also be misinterpreting AND THEREFORE HAVE TO CHECK USING THE BELOW PROCESS:
Honest communication is what can heal situations, because it allows for real understanding.
It allows for trust which is the basis of all relationships.
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