What Should I Do For Work?

 

So, how can we maximize our output?

The answer is to schedule tasks into our diaries and calendars and turn up! You could call these EFFECTIVENESS RITUALS.

If you tell other people who genuinely love you, what you want to do, they can help hold you accountable to it and will usually support you on your journey.

We MUST prioritise our actions in order to keep ourselves and or family members alive and well as surely this would be the most important thing on anyone's agenda?!?!

No matter what is going on in our lives, we simply (and perhaps obviously) MUST prioritise movement for our bodies (even if it is just a quick walk at some point int he day), along with eating nutritious foods which stops us getting sick and instead keeps us and those we cook for well. Also buying the best ingredients we can get our hands on and cooking wisely.

This is why learning to LOVE food and COOK and perhaps come together to share these tasks within your family or with your housemates is a great idea! Eating well not only helps you live a long beautiful life and care for others, including you, but it also brings family and friends JOY. It ALSO saves money and allows you to experiment with ingredients and connect with people you care about in your home if. you cook and eat together. This time son the day is very important to create CONNECTION...one of the most important aspects of mental health.

Creating CONNECTION rituals on a daily basis is extremely important. Also, spending quality time speaking with those that matter to you is one of the most important tasks a person could possibly undertake in any role, but particularly as a Mother and Wife or Father or Dad.

There is so much to do and time to do it in, however it is easy to be concerned that there is not enough time in a day to get everything you need, actually done.

There can ALSO be this sneaking feeling that, no matter what you do, it won't be enough.

This is why writing or typing out and then prioritising each action listed on a To-Do list each day is what will make you effective and efficient, not forgetting these important CONNECTION rituals.

Where do I start you ask, well, based on what is the most urgent task, or the one that will provide the greatest impact for you, your family, colleagues at work or in your own business is imperative.

The Solution is to think like this; Doing small amounts of what really matters most to you, actually is 'enough' day to day!!

Perhaps ask yourself, whilst doing what I had to do for my job, or my family, did I make a little dent in my task list and cross off some top priority actions today that will lead to a better future for myself and them (it might be as simple as getting that bill paid so you have the services you need, or getting your tax return done to ensure you get your cash back, or having a chat with your accountant about starting a business or perhaps make an appointment with your doctor....or even cook nutritious food to help you or them overcome an illness and avoid doctors altogether)?

To rectify the issue around being accountable to work or other pastimes for the majority of your time, you could start by politely saying "no" to a few things that others may want you to do. Like sit and watch television shows.

Saying "no" may seem difficult at first, but is worth doing, as your efforts will build into an overall goal over time.

 

"People ought to do what they want to do; what else are they alive for?" James Baldwin

We agree with James and also say that we have to be careful to also prioritise the needs and wants of those we care for, particularly in a family or work situation. To ALSO help others achieve their outcomes is a worthy pursuit and use of your time.

If we aim to live by values like honesty; respect and love; making a difference and so on, then this also contributes to creating more harmony and better relationships etc. Relationships are all based on mutual trust and unconditional love ultimately.

The way to find your unique talent is to do what you love and what you are naturally inclined to do, even if you weren’t getting paid to do it, and it may not be what others want or need you to do, but may still be a passion of yours, which, assuming it is ethical and will not harm others, we would encourage you to spend time doing so.

This could even be done around another full time or a part-time career.

We do not want to experience remorse or regret that we waited so long to do it.

"Do not, put off until tomorrow what you can do today."

If you schedule tasks early in the morning perhaps, or find cracks in your schedule during the day to do little tasks that can lead to exciting outcomes long term, this actually works when you have a full schedule. There is no reason to wait.

Half and hour to one hour doing something like practise, or picking up the phone to talk to someone that can perhaps help you in some way, every bit makes a difference and can change your trajectory.

If we can manage to do just enough each day of the above, we will then feel good about ourselves and our role in the world.  Our days will roll into weeks which will roll into months and then years and we may well get to live out a pretty amazing life where we can look back and feel like it was a life well lived.

Do just enough each day and you will turn not only your mood and life around but also potentially that of your children and family. simply because YOU feel better about yourself.

Many though,  set themselves impossibly high standards and then give themselves a hard time for failing to live up to these.

When you feel yourself starting to become anxious, over the top or agitated because you have not crossed enough off your to-do list, perhaps acknowledge and remember your many successes, rather than dwelling on your perceived flaws or failures!!

We ALL only have 24 hours in each and every day.

According to Wikipedia, a circadian rhythm (/sərˈkeɪdiən/), or circadian cycle, is a natural oscillation that repeats roughly every 24 hours. Circadian rhythms can refer to any process that originates within an organism (i.e., endogenous) and responds to the environment (is entrained by the environment). Circadian rhythms are regulated by a circadian clock whose primary function is to rhythmically co-ordinate biological processes so they occur at the correct time to maximise the fitness of an individual.

Having said this, situations and circadian life changing issues like tough relationships with family, or someone having a go at you and questioning who you, can throw you off course for a while. Our family members may or may not be going through something and may need you to make time in your schedule for a chat to keep them in a healthy mindset and to clear up misunderstandings. Healthy communication with those that matter to you can take up precious time but it can also literally save a relationship or that person!

When things happen that we don't understand or that may be extremely tough to deal with, we may start questioning everything, which could result in giving ourselves a really hard time.

This may send us into some pain, however it will likely also lead us into self reflection.

In times like these, we can search out mentors and those who can help love and guide us thorough what we are going through, without judgement.

The Mentors we provide in a signature program, attempt to do this and even more!

All of this can then lead to a change in our individual values and beliefs and perhaps even our environments. As a result, we can learn new ways of being.

If you don't feel very valued, it could well be because you feel like you are being controlled or doing work that you are not that interested in. You may not be doing the things that make you feel good each and every day. If you engage other people to assist you, then they should be offering guidance around what works depending on the outcome you want, and under most circumstances, rather than control.

Having said this, in cases of emergency etc, be aware there may be a need for control over people to ensure their wellbeing and safety.

A lot of us get the message as young people, based on the family members and other people in our lives who demonstrate behaviour and make out that life is ONLY about being super responsible, serious, and little to no fun!

Sometimes we have to be doing not so fun tasks, and in moderation they are fine, but I do not suggest we spend our lives ONLY doing them, with HARD SLOG being our predominant emotion. Build in a bit of fun, even if it is only on the weekends, and you can get through it.

 

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WHEN SOMEONE IS ACTING IN A WAY YOU DON'T LIKE, YOU COULD ASK YOURSELF THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS:

Where have I possibly done this and what was my learning about it?

Who perhaps is doing something different and is this a good idea? What other options do I have?

If these questions are answered honestly, then the outcome can be so incredible, and mentorees can change, accept who they are and start to do work using their unique creativity and gifts.

Maybe also think about how you can do it differently through an example of another person that you know of who has demonstrated a good way of handling similar situations in the past.

Maybe THEN decide that you will act a different way in the future and learn from a situation....you could in fact become a role model to others who might look up to you, without even realising it.

The great news is that in our society there is so much support now for people in tough situations, regardless of the cause (For example: it may have been a relationship that didn't turn out the way they wanted it to or perhaps even losing a role they loved doing), and most people can find enough assistance through this support network (feel free to look at our other blog which has information on it about where to find these services, like for instance the salvation army or kids help line etc).

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If you are spending too much time "in your head" analysing things you could try getting out of your thoughts and into your feelings.

There really is no need to give yourself a hard time, as you may waste a lot of time doing that instead of taking steps in the right direction, toward a new future each and every day.

It's about moving from your head to your heart.

What are you feeling about all this? Being honest with yourself matters...from here we can make the kind of decisions that make the difference in your life over time.

If you start to prioritise important activities and ALSO make time for the people, places and loves in your life, then you will more than likely feel naturally playful, happier and come across to others as a more relaxed and kinder version of yourself.

You can do this by choosing the people you most want to spend time with (be wise about this as some take a while to get to know), and by allowing yourself to do the sort of work that you really enjoy.

The simple fact is that when you feel good, you naturally help others around you feel good too and they will more than likely want to spend more time with you. The opposite is also true.

Perhaps also think of yourself when you felt empowered and allow yourself to be excited about possibility and be optimistic about the future and remember how far you have come.

If we utilise the rituals in our daily lives that make a difference, like eating well and exercising, and working on projects that we love to do, then we will more than likely start acting as our best selves, liking ourselves more and can contributing in a more constructive manner to society, our families etc.

Our relationships can become more creative, and as a result, we have better conversations with others, which creates a feeling of belonging.

Because of all of the contributions we are making individually to people and organisations, we can create more harmony in the world, through us all working at our best, and keeping ourselves in a more relaxed, happier emotional state, the majority of the time.

You are the unique selling point in your life and perhaps business, as there is only one of you! No other person can be the same and bring the same set of unique attributes to the table.

 

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